Posts tagged privilege
Posts tagged privilege
Hint: If you ignore or omit race in your discussion of privilege of any kind, you’re probably the one I’m talking about.
White Privilege is white graffiti artists appropriating a medium created by PoC to send messages like “fuck the system” when the system is the very reason you can make graffiti and become popular and acclaimed for it rather than arrested and brutalized by the police.
male privilege is being able to wear shirts with the sides cut out or none at all while we are not even allowed to have our shoulders exposed in a high school gym with no air conditioning.
This is for POC that still don’t get it. I pity yall, so we’ll try this again.
- “I don’t see color.” - I don’t give a fuck about realizing my white privilege or the challenges you face because you are not white. I am saying this in a deceptive way to make it sound like I’m not racist, but in fact, what eventually happens goes as follows.
:Sees disproportion in color on college campuses - Well those niggers must be lazy or stupid, or both, because I got here!
:Sees disproportion in arrests against the general population - Well, those niggers must be dangerous criminals, because I obeyed the law and police officers don’t bother me.
- “I have Black People in my family/as friends.” - My racism is so apparent that I have to resort to the measure of bringing up a cousin by marriage on my aunt’s husband’s stepson’s side or a guy my science teacher made me do a project with as evidence that I don’t discriminate against Black People. And you know, slave masters and colonizers totally didn’t procreate with their victim.
- “There’s a Black History Month, but no White History Month” - So, get this lawls! We actually do have a White History Month, but we’re just so fucking selfish that we decided to branch it off into subcategories (German, Italian, Polish, Italian, etc.) but you know, we’re still going to play the victim role here. Also, you have plenty of history that we either neglect or steal, so we’re just going to not discuss you in any of our history books, but get mad when you actually try to celebrate the history of yours that we’ve distorted.
- “Not all White People are Like That” - Du U SEE WHUT I DID HERE!? I just made myself the victim, even though you’re the one in pain. And clearly, you don’t think all White People are like that, because if you did, you wouldn’t even be wasting your breath with me anyways, but I’m still going to pretend you generalized against White People. I don’t like to listen to your pain, it’s not fun, so I’m just going to shut you up. Good luck with your shitty life, come back when you have nice things to say about White People, okay?
- “I’m not Racist, but (insert racist shit here)” - So, obviously I am a racist because I just said something incredibly racist, but totally don’t want to take the title racist, so guess what, I’m just gonna say I’m not a racist and hope you’re stupid enough to believe me. Don’t call me out though, you see, we have this thing called Reverse Racism that we made up and we’re gonna use that on you.
- “That’s Reverse Racism” - Although my reasons for disliking you are completely about my belief that you’re inferior and your reasons are out of being made inferior, I’m going to call them the same thing. I’m going to tell you that Affirmative Action is an example of Reverse Racism, but get this, Affirmative Action was created to level out the centuries upon centuries that I have had a head start in comparison to you and it hardly exists anymore, but I’m still going to use it.
- “You can say nigga, but not me, that’s not fair” - Neither is the fact that I’m much less likely to get pulled over by the police and I can be a felon and still have a better chance at getting hired against your crime-free record, but hey, this isn’t about me! I’m more concerned with taking the one thing you can do that I can’t, which by the way, came out of centuries of oppression and cruelty. I don’t like that you can use a word that has historically hurt you, but I can’t use the same word, even though I’m the one who used it to hurt you.
- “Appropriation? No, I just love your culture.” - I just really saw some cute headband feather shit at Urban Outfitters and was completely unaware that it was your culture until you pointed it out. But keeping up with a summer trend is way more important than your people and the sacred meanings behind your accessories. come fall, new shit is gonna be out and your culture is going to be in my trash can but hey , I’m still appreciating you! Feel appreciated, damnit!
This is an amazing post.
White privilege is the Westboro Baptist Church.
If a group of POC picketed violent or radical ideas anywhere—especially at the funerals of American troops—there would be extreme and immediate consequences.
Submission by in-n0-cence
Mod note: Let’s take this moment to observe that we literally don’t have a right to free speech because we’re dark-skinned.
I know I wont live to see 25.
I just know it.
Looking at some of the comments to this kills me. Do people really not know why it’s so common for black folks to say this, especially black men and boys? It’s because a shit load don’t make it to 25.
I used to have this same feeling. Like 25 wasn’t going to happen for me. It got to the point where I turned things into I’m not going past 25, that’s too old, just to comfort the forbidding in my stomach. One minute til my twenty-fifth I wrote my sister and told her I had just made it to the point in my life when I used to say I would die and for the first time I was genuinely happy with myself.
Anyway, I hope you make it way past, and that when you do there are enough good things in your life that makes that shit worth it.
Yea the comments are rude as shit. I just turned 25 in june and let me tell you, I am fucking amazed. And I didn’t even live in poverty or an area where there was constant violence. But… shit can really take a toll on you and I thought it would be by my own hand or by not having any regard for my safety or life.
I do hope you do live to 25 but the feeling you have is real. And it aint wrong to have. No amount of “positive thinking” will get you out of your circumstances without resources to back it up and niggas preaching to you can shut the fuck up. I know you been going through a rough ass time. And how you’ve felt down a lot. I can’t tell you what will or won’t happen. but you are loved. And tho people are assholes, this is your blog and you can express your feelings however you need.
Reblogging for commentary.
White privilege: taking for granted that you will almost certainly live past 25.
(Heterosexual) male privilege is talking about how bad it is to have a gay man incessantly hit on you when you aren’t interested, having it accepted as a common opinion, and still not understand how a woman can feel the same way when you do the same thing.
Male privilege is telling women on the street - who you’ve never met before - to smile, and then acting offended when they don’t.
Male privilege is describing women being cautious about sexual assault as “misandry”, then, in another situation, blaming a victim for (apparently) not being cautious enough.
Male privilege is making jokes about women and using women’s offended responses as proof that they’re “overly sensitive” or “melodramatic”, then using women making jokes about men as proof that women are “callous” and “bitchy”.
Male privilege is being offended at being called sexist, but making fun of women who are offended at actual sexism.
Male privilege is complaining when women don’t reward treating them with basic dignity with sex. Male privilege is thinking you “deserve” or are “owed” a woman. Male privilege is treating friendships with women as failed conquests. Male privilege is putting the blame on women for not wanting to date you, instead of accepting that dating is not a one-sided thing. (In regards to “the friend zone”).
Male privilege is thinking that when you’re hired instead of a woman, it’s because you’re more qualified, but when a woman is hired instead of you, it’s affirmative action or she slept with them.
Male privilege is thinking you’re entitled to make comments about women’s bodies and clothes whenever you please, and then telling women they should feel flattered by this.
Male privilege is thinking consciption is a valid proof of “misandry” when the last conscripted soldier left the US army in 1973 and the UK army in 1963, and when more women are killed in their homes by their male partners every year than male soldiers killed in Afghanistan and Iraq put together.
Male privilege is calling all nerdy women “fakers” and making them “prove” they’re nerds with questions, while doing no such thing for male nerds.
Male privilege is assuming everyone is male until proven otherwise, and also recieving little to no criticism for doing so.
Male privilege is expecting the lead in any film or TV series to be the same gender as you, and being correct almost every single time. (Seriously - how many movies not SPECIFICALLY aimed at women have female leads? How many movies not SPECIFICALLY amed at men have male leads?)
Male privilege is having your country leader and the majority of the legislative body be the same gender as you, and have your gender’s interests in mind.
Male privilege is having bodily autonomy.
(Cis) male privilege is not having to worry about visiting foreign countries because you know how poorly they treat your gender there.
Male privilege is having no risk presented to your career if you choose to start a family.
Male privilege is acting like women having maternity leaves is biological fact without realising that (aside from the birth) men can stay home and look after the newborn baby just fine - you just assume that the woman has to do it.
Male privilege is walking around in summer with just shorts on, but criticising any woman who’d do the same (… even if she’s still wearing more than you!).
Male privilege is sleeping with whomever you like, but calling any woman who does the same (even if she does so less than you) a “whore” who “has no self-respect”.
Male privilege is expecting to be just as, or even more, desirable because you’re sexually active/experienced, yet considering any woman who’s done the same “worthless”, “disgusting” or “cheap”.
Male privilege is ogling, touching or making unsolicited sexual advances at women and saying you “can’t help it” and “men are naturally like that”, then saying that it’s misandry when women agree that all men just “can’t help themselves” and “are naturally like that”.
Male privilege is thinking “being respectful and decent to a woman” is synonymous with “chivalry”… male privilege is not doing the former in order to “get back at feminists” who say the latter is misogynistic.
I see a lot of questions around “when” an ally should speak up. I would never be able to go over each and every possible scenario but I can give you a few rules of thumb. As with most “ally” discussions this can often be applied to other areas but in keeping with theme, this will be about anti-racism allies:
Speak up when the offended party is not around - You and your friend are hanging out. You are both white, they say something racist. Speak up. You need to speak up for two reasons. 1-To let them know what they said was wrong and 2-To let them know that YOU don’t think it is okay. Always remember, silence is acceptance.
Speak up until you are told otherwise - You (a white person) your friend (a white person) and another friend (a Black person) are all hanging out. Your white friend says something racist. Speak up. For the same reason’s as listed above. However, if the Black person says to let it go, let it go. It does NOT mean that the Black person agrees with what was said, it (more often than not) means that they feel like the argument is both futile and will single THEM out. This is not an easy place to be in, especially if you are the only person of color in the room. In many cases, you will be asked to stop just so they can not have to be the center of attention anymore. Please comply with the wishes of the PoC.
Never speak up - You (a white person) your friend (a Black person) and another friend (a Black person) are hanging out. One Black person says something about the Black race and the other friend disagrees. This turns into a discussion. Say nothing. You can however speak up if your opinion is asked for-but be warned. If you are the minority white person in the situation, know that human nature will likely cause the person you disagree with to say “This person doesn’t know.” They would not necessarily be wrong about that. Still, this is something that, in this situation I would strongly encourage you to stay out of altogether.
Know your place - This is the one that causes the most problems for allies. It’s really about knowing when to stop. Okay, you (a white person) are in a racial conversation with your friend (a Black person) this is an open conversation and the Black person has let you know that they are comfortable having this conversation. Now, you start asking questions about their experience or their view point as a Black person. This is perfectly fine if you have PREVIOUSLY been given the okay. Where this get’s tricky for some is when an opinion is given that you don’t agree with. It seems to be very difficult to remember that the experience you are asking for is that of the other person’s. The other person who has a vastly different experience than yourself. When they say something you don’t agree with, do not, I repeat DO NOT DISMISS THEIR WORDS. You disagreeing does not make you right. There is a VERY good chance that your experience and their experience are two very different things. The conversation itself (as long as you’ve been given the okay) is perfectly fine. Disagreeing is perfectly fine. However, talking over, dismissing, belittling or even arguing about who is right is a big NO-NO. This is not and never can be a situation of “I am right and you are wrong” because in this particular case, you think you are comparing green apples to red apples when in fact, you are comparing green apples to ice cream. Two very different perspectives and that is SO IMPORTANT to always remember as an ally.
Reblogging because this is a good thing to remember in light of yesterday’s posts about “die cis scum” and self-declared allies.
The above are all good points to remember.
This is extremely helpful to me.