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Birth control without hormones

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Someone asked us:

Q. I can’t take birth control pills (the estrogen in them gives me massive migraines). What other types of birth control are out there that don’t involve changing a person’s hormones.

Bummer about the migraines, but fortunately there are a lot of birth control options available for someone who wants to avoid estrogen, or hormonal contraception altogether.

If estrogen is the problem, there are hormonal birth control methods that do NOT contain estrogen, but instead use a different hormone — progestin — to prevent pregnancy. Check out the birth control shot, implant, the Mirena IUD, or even progestin-only birth control pills.

If you need to avoid hormones altogether, the most effective form of birth control (other than abstinence) is the ParaGard IUD - a small device that is inserted into the uterus by a health care provider and left there for as long as you want, up to 10-12 years. It doesn’t contain any hormones and is 99% effective at preventing pregnancy.

The diaphragm, cervical cap, sponge, condom, and female condom (which can also be used by anyone to protect against sexually transmitted infections during vaginal AND anal sex) are all barrier methods of birth control that don’t involve any hormones. They work by creating a physical barrier that prevent sperm and egg from meeting up.

Various forms of spermicide can be inserted into the vagina before intercourse and release chemicals that prevents sperm from reaching an egg.

There are actions people can take that can help them avoid pregnancy while sexually active; things like avoiding ejaculation inside of the vagina (withdrawal), and avoiding vaginal intercourse during the times in the menstrual cycle when pregnancy is most likely to happen (fertility awareness-based methods).

For permanent, non-reversible birth control, vasectomy and sterilization are two options. 

As you can see, even someone who wants to avoid birth control that contains estrogen has a lot of options!

-Nathan at PPFA

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TW: Abuse

I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control. I was on the pill until he found them in my purse.

I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem.

Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: “Are you ready to leave him?” When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo.

When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name “Nora”. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to.

And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe.

I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy.

I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do.

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What is Trans* Repro Justice?

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transreprojustice:

A lot of people when they hear the terms “prochoice”, “reproductive rights” or even “reproductive justice” only think of abortion, but this view is myopic in my opinion. “Reproducing” encompasses many things which includes the right to choose to have children (or give birth and choose adoption), to choose to not have children right now, and to choose to never have children. Reproductive justice frameworks are holistic and look at reproductive rights with the whole person in mind. This means people also have the right to quality and comprehensive sex education, contraception, relevant medical care, the right to be sterilized and the right to not be forcibly sterilized, and a whole host of birthing choices as well (home/natural births, VBACs, the right to refuse c-sections, etc).

Not only that but reproductive rights activists are also concerned with advocating for the personhood/bodily integrity/and autonomy of pregnant people, advocating for reproductive health care as a human right, eradicating obstetric fistula and illegal/unsafe abortion in the developing world, lowering the incidence of teen pregnancy and STIs, lowering the mortality and morbidity rates of pregnant people, improving access to quality healthcare especially for people in poverty. The list goes on and on. Further, we must remember that race, class, disability status, citizenship status, gender, sexual orientation, etc all intersect and all have an effect on how we can or cannot utilize our reproductive rights, and therefore all of those issues must be addressed for reproductive justice to be successful in upholding the rights of all people not just those who are white, wealthy, able-bodied, straight, cis, male citizens. 

So what does this have to do with trans* people?

Well, perhaps not everyone within the movement believes “prochoice” should be a holistic philosophy, but I for one, do. We concentrate on abortion rights because that’s the issue so often under attack, but to be actually “prochoice” is much more expansive than that. It’s about bodily integrity and the importance of keeping personal bodily decisions just that, personal. It’s about birthing choices as much as it is abortion. It’s about how the reproductive rights of different segments of society have been effected differently and what that means to all of us as a whole. Intersectionality matters because poc, poor people, disabled people, trans* people, people of various sexual orientations have been targeted differently and yet it’s all part of a larger system that denies those seen as the “other” the freedom to make basic choices in regards to how their bodies are viewed and how they are utilized. Therefore it’s important to remember that the sexist and cissexist system that seeks to control the sexuality, bodies, and reproduction of those it perceives to be women is the same system that actively targets the identities, bodies, reproduction, and sexualities of trans* people. Reproductive rights aren’t about abortion, they’re about the profound and fundamental right to bodily integrity.

So what is trans* repro justice?

It’s the radical notion that:

  • Our bodies belong to us and our right to bodily integrity doesn’t dissipate when society becomes aware of our trans*ness.
  • Our bodies and identities are valid, no matter how “uncommon” they may be.
  • Language matters and so does inclusivity. When your rhetoric excludes us so do your actions, and that sometimes literally kills us.
  • We don’t need to be pathologized or “explained” within a cissexist paradigm. 
  • You don’t need to understand us to respect us.
  • Sex and gender are not neat binaries.
  • We deserve to have our needs met and our boundaries respected just as much as anyone else.
  • Medical care should be easily accessible to every one that needs and wants it.
  • Parenthood and reproduction are basic human rights and no person should be sterilized without their consent or knowledge. In the other direction, all people that seek sterilization should be able to do so without jumping through hoops for paternalistic doctors.
  • All of us have the right to information about our bodies, that doesn’t exclude or denigrate our identities or misgender us, to ensure we can maintain our health.
  • All of us have a right to maintain our humanity, dignity, and health. This doesn’t change with citizen status or prisoner status.
  • Intersectionality is important. Trans* activism must be cognizant of it, and willing to acknowledge the power hierarchies and systems of privilege within our own community.
  • We all have the right to control our fertility how we see fit (whether through pregnancy, adoption, single parenthood, harvesting eggs, sperm banking, etc), and those services should be accessible and affordable.
  • We are perfectly capable of being wonderful parents and raising amazing, well-adjusted children.
  • Men can and do give birth. Not all those that give birth are mothers.
  • Women can and do impregnate people. Not all those that impregnate are fathers.
  • “Mothers” and “fathers” aren’t the only type of parents that exist.
  • We have a right to obtain government issued identification documents that acknowledge our identities (even nonbinary ones!) without having to undergo costly surgery we may not even want.
  • We shouldn’t have to conform to a coercive, gendered script for the comfort of cis people nor should we be expected to live or perform a typical trans* narrative to be taken seriously.
  • We should be able to use public restrooms without being attacked, mocked, or arrested.
  • Our identities and bodies shouldn’t be caricatured for the amusement of society.
  • We are people. We are valid. We are here to stay.
This is a work in progress. Any additions are welcome!

Reblogging here so more people will see this and also to plug my new trans*-centered repro justice blog.

WONDERFUL!

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Project TMI: Day #3

Have you participated yet? Plenty of people have. In the video above, Rachel Maddow discusses multiple politicians whose Facebook pages have been inundated with sarcastic comments from constituents and concerned citizens regarding anti-choice legislation.

It was also reported on at Buzzfeed, Talking Points Memo, and Mashable.

Let’s keep it up. We at RHRC are focusing on Utah and Kansas but this message works with any politician who is anti-choice. If you write them on Twitter, please use the hashtag: #mybodyyourchoice.

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Utah’s governor, Gary Herbert, currently has ON HIS DESK RIGHT NOW the legislation that will change Utah’s 24hr mandatory waiting period between appointment and abortion to 72 hours. 

We need him to VETO it.

PHONE #s: 801-538-1000 and 800-705-2464

EMAIL him

TWEET him 

LEAVE COMMENTS on posts on his FACEBOOK wall

Mandatory waiting period laws serve no other purpose than to shame people wanting an abortion. 

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In case you don’t know WHY we are targeting Brownback and Kansas, Kari Ann Rinker’s piece at RH Reality Check has the details. The bill includes

  • cutting off medical training for doctors (which may cause the KU Medical School to lose accreditation)
  • outlawing Planned Parenthood employees from volunteering at schools
  • allows physicians to lie to their patients about pregnancy complications
  • forces doctors to lie to patients about anti-scientific and untrue risks with abortion
  • and creates a new state income tax on any expense related to abortion.

Facebook page.

Twitter: @GovSamBrownback.

You can also call Brownback’s office at 877-579-6757 or 785-296-3232. 

Or you can send him an official message through his contact page.

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